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[crazy-meiguoren]

It's pointless to try to compare one country's domestic abuse rate to another. Too many incidents go unreported and no nation wants to honestly admit that half of its population is mistreated by the other half.

What China, or any other country, needs to do is to take a look at what it allowed in the past, what it wants to allow in the future, and to see how close it is to that goal. Not just amount of progress, but the depth of the progress is important. What I mean by "depth" is, is the "progress" true progress, or is it window dressing? Is the progress found in the publicly visible arena (well-traveled metropolitan areas, for example) also found in all segments of society?

It is pointless to come up with statistics that can be manipulated to make one's own country look good at the expense of another. All it does is create finger-pointing at the neighbors while overlooking what is going on in your own house.

[xiaocai]

I'm quite impressed by the logics behind the deduction of "Domestic violence still accepted in China: poll". And if we summarise the process it will be:

"38% of have resorted to violence to settle a disagreement with their spouses"+"44% of respondents have blamed the wives"-->"Nearly half of the Chinese population believes it is reasonable for husbands to beat their wives"-->"Domestic violence still accepted in China"

Does anyone see any problems here?

So what thoughts I can give if the hypothesis is based one single case plus a statement which is full of holes?

My parents also have had a few fights over their many years of marriage. I still remember there was a very bad one that it came to the stage that they were almost going to get divorced. It all started with something small but got out of control all of a sudden. Of course they didn't go to the police because "we are Chinese". They didn't really point guns or knives at each other's head, but a few plates and bowls and one of my father's favourite tea set were broken during the fight. Sorry I can't provide any more details since this happened when I was still fairly young, about 5 years old. I think this would be enough to classify it as a "violent event". However from what I can tell they are otherwise a happy loving couple and there is no way I will believe that my father will think it is ok to beat up my mother.

I think domestic violence should not be tolerated under all kind of circumstances, and China still have a long way to go on this issue. But as far as I am aware of, it is NOT accepted by majority of chinese.

Edited November 23, 2009 at 01:48 PM by xiaocai