funeral's lijin

[rezaf]

My mother-in-law has passed away and I want to give my father-in-law a lijin from myself and my parents. How much do you think it should be?

[skylee]

I wonder if it should be a lijin as the relationship is so close, as you are her son-in-law. I think you can discuss with him about the costs of the funeral and burial/cremation and then pay part of them. Your parents could give some condolence money as they see fit. These are just my personal opinions.

[JonBI]

Why not ask your wife/husband?

[rezaf]

Why not ask your wife/husband?

Because she was in no shape to talk about anything and I couldn't ask my father-in-law about the money cuz it should be a gift. Anyway skylee is right i gave the money on behalf of my parents.

[jbradfor]

Sorry to hear about your loss.

This might be too late, but IMO you should not think of this as a gift from you and your parents. I think this is basically what skylee was saying, but now that you are married, you should consider yourself and your wife as a "unit", and there will be a separate gift from your parents that does not include you. There should be no separate gift from you, it should be only from you and your wife.

Again, IMO, I wouldn't worry too much about exactly what the gift from your parents should be, and instead focus on helping your wife through this difficult time. As long as there is a gift from your parents, and it is at least somewhat appropriate, that is all that matters.