Make phone calls.

[pavel987]

In a romantic relationship, who is supposed to take initiative to make regular phone calls - the boy or the girl? (In China, of course)

[Lu]

If this is for academic research, I suggest you interview a number of young people about this.

If this is for your own relationship: call her when you would like to talk to her. If she indicates you call too often or not often enough, try to find a frequency that works for both of you. If she calls you too often or not often enough for your liking, ask her to call less/more. If you cannot communicate about this issue, or if it's impossible to resolve this to the satisfaction of both of you, break up with her. In a relationship, this issue should not be a difficult thing.

There's probably some amount of cultural expectations, but she probably has her own working hours, phone contract, preferred method of communication, etc, that will in many cases overrule the cultural expectations. Call her when you want to, and ask her about her preferences in this. Good luck!

[abcdefg]

Communication roles: (said partly in jest)

 

He is responsible for the 我好想你 part of things.

 

She is responsible for the 多穿一点衣服 aspect of the relationship.

 

They both share the burden of 你吃饭了没有？

[renzhe]

In a romantic relationship, who is supposed to take initiative ......

The man.

Call her when you want to, and ask her about her preferences in this.

Tsk tsk, Lu. He should know her preferences.

[Lu]

Well yeah, that's why he should ask. So he knows. :-p

[LiMo]

Haven't you heard, Lu? You're not allowed to ask. You shouldn't have to ask. You're supposed to know.

 

(jk  )

[Lu]

Right. Of course. Clairvoyance, basic requirement in a partner :-p

[langxia]

 

Communication roles: (said partly in jest)

 

He is responsible for the 我好想你 part of things.

 

She is responsible for the 多穿一点衣服 aspect of the relationship.

 

They both share the burden of 你吃饭了没有？

 

I have made the experience that in modern couples both have both roles. I have to tell my wife sometimes that I miss her and also sometimes that she should wear a little more, while she tells me she misses me all the time.