How to ask about Flirting in Chinese?

[david3249]

How do I ask a girl:

"Are you flirting with me?"

and how do I tell a girl:

"Yes, I am flirting with you!"

Thank you in advance for help!!

[Tom.King]

Are you flirting with me you can say 你是在捉弄我吗？

[skylee]

Indeed, how? Strangely what comes to my mind is this from the Book of Odes -

月出皎兮、佼人僚兮。

The moon comes forth in her brightness ; How lovely is that beautiful lady !

I figure it's because of the similarity of 僚 and 撩. haha.

[doumeizhen]

If your conversations keep progressing, the book Making out in Chinese has a section of useful phrases and terms.

I don't have one here or else I'd check the flirting thing for you.

[roddy]

If she's got to ask, surely you aren't doing it right . . .

调情 would be the dictionary definition. I'm sure I once knew a much more colloquial expression, but I can't find it - might have been 挤眉弄眼, which I don't think is quite appropriate but deserves a mention for being a fantastic phrase anyway.

I had a copy of Making out in Chinese once, I seem to remember it being quite promising, but the author (based in Taiwan I think) had decided to invent his own romanization scheme, thus making life a little more difficult.

[skylee]

Are you flirting with me you can say 你是在捉弄我吗？

interesting. never thought that flirt = 捉弄. always think that flirt = 調情 ...

[semantic nuance]

flirt with sb might be similar to 打情罵俏.

More slangy, if she asks that, the chinese version might be : 你想把我啊?

your answer 'yes, i'm flirting with you.' might be ' 對, 我就是要把你!'

把 here is a slang, meaning 'pick up sb'. From your context, that's what I could think of in Taiwanese slang.

Hope it helps!

[chenpv]

How do I ask a girl:

"Are you flirting with me?"

Oh' date=' , dear david, you remind me of this.....

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Obviously, after watching lots of western movies in which a man always nails a woman down..... IMHO, I find your question kind of, you know, 'supernatural'.

While you can go and check this blog: Focus on THAT area, (Declaration: I am a pure person though. ) if you read Chinese. I believe it helps you more.

[in_lab]

What about, 你在吃我的豆腐嗎?

[doumeizhen]

Doesn't that come after the flirting?

[david3249]

what does it mean when you ask her to eat your dou fu?

[skylee]

Take a look -> http://www.iciba.com/search?s=%E5%90%83%E8%B1%86%E8%85%90

吃豆腐

chī dòufu

[方]

[take liberties with]∶戏弄女性

[joke;make fun of sb.]∶戏谑人,以占便宜和给人难堪为目的

[condole]∶到死人家里吊丧

I have never heard of the last meaning, though.

[roddy]

That last one has got to be wrong surely?

I had a look at the ABC via Wenlin, and have this question:

①eat beancurd 〈coll.〉

if 吃豆腐 is the colloquial way of saying 'eat beancurd', what's the non-colloquial equivalent?

[skylee]

LOL

[in_lab]

It looks like wenlin got the coll. marker out of place. In plecodict, it is (2) a)tease, flirt with B) engage in minor sexual harrassment

Based on the definition Skylee posted, it sounds like only teasing flirting, not other kinds of flirting.

[david3249]

well, speaking of which, i'd love to learn more about how to do "other" kinds of flirting.

I'm eager to learn and a great student when it comes to such things

[elina]

I think flirting is 挑逗.

[in_lab]

well, speaking of which, i'd love to learn more about how to do "other" kinds of flirting.

I'm eager to learn and a great student when it comes to such things

If one of us were female, I'd say you've already started.

[mikelove]

I checked my dictionary collection and there does seem to be somewhat of a negative connotation to 吃豆腐 - the new (and pretty good aside from the lack of fantizi) Harper Collins dictionary defines it as "be lecherous" and Cheng & Tsui's "Pop Chinese" title defines it as "take liberties with a woman"; neither of them suggests that it's limited to simple teasing.

And the printed ABC concurs with the Pleco version, so it appears that is the right one.

[-Ross-]

I believe that in mainland China it means 'take liberties with a woman', 'feel a woman up', 'take advantage of a woman', etc., 99% of the time.

I believe in Taiwan they may have a more liberal use of the term.

Can anyone who is a native of either of these regions confirm or deny this?